white Facebook Friends

“Go Back To Where You Came From” now “Send Her Back”.  I must question how many of my white Facebook friends sit in front of your television and repeat those racist chants.  I must question how many of my white Facebook friends silently want “me” to go back to where I came from.  To my white Facebook friends if you support these types of racist chants, are you a racist?  If you support this racist President along with his disdain for People of Color, do you silently wish that I were not around? 

To my white Facebook friends I am confused that you call yourself a Christian, yet remain silent regarding the inhumane treatment of men, women, and children, and please don’t use the “well they are illegal” argument BECAUSE they ARE human beings, created by God or maybe you believe in a “different god”…  To my white Facebook friends do you not give your dog or cat fresh water daily?  Would you cage your dog or cat?  Would you chain your dog and leave it outside in the hot sun?  To my white Facebook friends how do you justify and remain silent of the inhumane treatment of human beings, yet ensure your cat or dog is fed, clean, and comfortable?

To my white Facebook friends why do you not want ALL Americans to have affordable healthcare insurance?  To my white Facebook friends why do you not want blue collar workers to earn a livable wage?  To my white Facebook friends why do you not want those Americans that strive for, an affordable path to college?

Currently I am troubled and confused that my white Facebook friends see nothing wrong with this President.  How do you laugh when #45 bullies’ others by making fun of their name or their appearance?  To my white Facebook friends, the old saying “birds of a feather flock together” is fitting for this current administration and you really are going to have to convince me that you ARE NOT a racist.

Thought for the Day by Joyce

Go Back To Where You Came From

I don’t hate America, but I am extremely unhappy with this current Administration; I am unhappy with the subhuman treatment of the immigrants at the Southern border; I am unhappy with the racist rhetoric spewing from the White House, I am unhappy that ALL Americans don’t have health insurance, I am unhappy that many are drowning in student loan debt, I am unhappy that I have Facebook friends that believe in #45 thus leading me to believe they are also racists, I am unhappy that there is an assumption that if one is Black or Brown, speaks with an accent they are not from America, so YES I am extremely unhappy, but going back into my mother’s womb is impossible, I am unhappy with his divisive demeanor I don’t like or respect #45, he IS the worst President in my lifetime, BUT where I will go is to the #Voting line to cast my #Vote against #45 in November 2020, so I can tell him to go back to where he came from

Doctoral Degree Journey

The Doctoral Beginning

On 10 May 2019 I started on a journey to obtain my Doctoral Degree. I was not sure of what would be required of me or if I would be able to meet the demanding challenges of the pursuit. I asked God to give me the knowledge, patience, and stability as I begin the final path of my educational goals.

As of 29 June 2019 I have earned 9 Doctoral credits. Although I have about 48 credits to go, I am confident that I will go the distance. I now realize that I will have to change a lot of my mindset IF I am to finish. I will now have to listen and give less of what I think. After the completion of my first semester I do realize that I have A LOT to learn.

I have met new peers and through them I will grow in educational maturity. I also realized that learning is life-long and I will never learn it all. I was shocked at how little I really knew, but proud that I admitted to self the flaw in me. I am looking forward to the next 2.5 years and know that I will be more rounded in life when I am Hooded in August 2021.

That is my Thought for the Day.


IF – a small word with so much meaning…

IF only I had made that call

If only I had stopped by

If only I had made that dinner

If only I had said “I love you”

If only I could have said “good-bye”

Death does not give us time for the “IF”; Death will knock at the most inopportune time; Death will take a love one in the blink of an eye.

IF you haven’t already, make that call now, stop by now, have dinner now, tell them you love them now, say good-bye now, because Death is somewhere now.

Numbness of Death

Death as I have stated many times in the past is a date, we all one day will have.  As I told my Cousin Charles, I am ready as I tell my daughters on a regular basis “when Death knocks on my door, all you have to do is unlock the safe, and there you will find my funeral instructions, PAID IN FULL”.

When I learned of the death of Aunt Doll, yes, I was sad, but her death was not unexpected as she had lost her husband of 70+ years a few months.  But when I was informed that Aunt Gussie had also died, on the same day, I went numb.  Aunt Gussie had just celebrated her 95th birthday, so I knew that her time on this side was growing short.

And now the ONLY sibling left of 14 or so is my Mama.  She and I talk often, and death is usually a topic.  She has told me many times that when God calls her home don’t cry because she has lived a full life and she has been blessed with kids, grandkids, and great-grandkids that she loves and know they love her.

As I prepare to travel to Arkansas, I thank God for giving me two Aunt’s that I loved and knew that at anytime I could call on them for advice and guidance.  What I am feeling is unexplainable, but the only word I can think of is – numb. 

For all that are reading this Thought for the Day by Joyce, I ask that you pray for the Hatley and Bell families as we prepare to bury the youngest Mother, Grandmother, Great-Grandmother, Great-Great-Grandmother and the oldest Aunt, Great-Aunt, Great-Great-Aunt of the Bell Family Tree.

This is my Thought for the Day.

You Hate Me Because…

You hate me because I am an African of Color

You Hate me because I am Black

You Hate me because I am Brown

You Hate me because I am not Christian

You Hate me because I am Muslim

You Hate me because I am not White

You Hate me because………

I am tired of “white men” hating all they don’t like or disagree with.  I am tired of “white men” believing the world belongs to “white men”.

But my statement to “white men” – I won’t stop being an African of Color; I won’t stop being a Black or Brown person; I won’t stop being a non-Christian; I won’t stop being a Muslim; I won’t stop being non-White!

But I will continue to #Demonstrate, #March, #Protest, AND #Vote because your hate gives me #Desire,  #Determination AND #Energy, to ensure that your “whiteness of hate” will one day be #NoMore.

That is my Thought for the Day.

Racism: Past and Present

If we don’t hurry up and get these old white racist men out of Congress, I am going to have to take drastic actions.  I will get back to you on what those actions will be.

I am so tired of racism and racist individuals.  I am tired of white people proclaiming they are not racist because they have Black friends or bi-racial family members.  Until we live in a blind society not one of us cannot emphatically state we are NOT racist.

The past 11 years have shown me that America has a very long way to go to get past the racism and racists behaviors and actions that are the foundation of America.  Unfortunately, we don’t have the opportunity of a “do over” in building our Nation where “ALL people regardless of race, creed, or color” will have an opportunity for health and prosperity.

I don’t know where America is headed, but I do know where we have been.  If our elected officials continue to blindly follow hateful rhetoric, demeaning suggestions, and the belief that there is a “them-v-us” mentality then we are doomed to return to unequal beliefs and actions of the past.

My Thought for the Day.

Choose Your Party

Do me a favor, if you are a Person of Color, read the platforms of the Democrat and Republican parties as that is what each candidate will end up taking as their platform when each wins their respective nomination.

A bit of history, if you read the 1952 Republican platform it is almost identical to the 2019 Democratic platform. Each party transformed during the late ’50’s through the ’80’s. I can assure you that the current Republican party would be glad to see it’s Black Republican’s back in chains, but because of the time the Republican party tolerates People of Color.

Now I am not going to state emphatically that the Democratic party is 100% for People of Color, but within that party you do have an opportunity to be heard as well as seen. In my opinion if a Black person is a Republican it is because of a specific issue, such as, opposed to abortion, opposed to affordable healthcare, pissed at President Obama because he was not a staunch Department of Defense supporter.

Please I urge you to review EACH candidates individual platform and see how it aligns with the party’s platform. And don’t attack me, name call because I believe that for my family’s sake that the Democratic Party’s platform is more beneficial for them to not end up homeless.

This is my Thought for the Day by Joyce.

Juvenile Delinquency

Once again children, as young as 12 years old, have been charged with murder.  And once again the community is in an uproar. The community asked how could this happen? Why did this happen? What can be done to prevent this becoming a regular recurring situation?

Most community members felt that our churches were not doing their job, and the after-school programs were failing the children.  But if a child is not “in” or “at” school then is it the responsibility of those entities?

Initially many such as I demanded that the parents be charged with contributing to the delinquency of a minor, only to find out that the children may not even live with a biological parent. The pain felt by community members was beyond description, especially for our Community of Color.

Going forward as a community we must demand individually that we as a community come together to create a solution to the problem of juvenile delinquency.  Personally, I believe we should return to the concept of the orphanage, but with a new and brighter mindset to an old concept.  The orphanage should be welcoming with an environment that will allow for the growth of unwanted children.  It should provide a solid educational foundation, as well as, an environment where the child is safe and basic needs are met.  And yes, there will be room for a religious perspective that would focus on the overall belief in God or a higher entity.  For us to continue to do nothing will only give us another opportunity to feel pain that is beyond description.

This is my Thought for the Day.

Missing A Child

Parents when was the last time you checked your child’s Instagram? DM? PM? Facebook page? Emails? Snapchat?

With the number of teens going missing I would say it is about time. Many are asking “who” is taking our children and my answer is the Internet. When a parent allows a child 100% freedom when it comes to social media, you have to understand that when you child does come up missing that freedom is suspect.

I am not sure why our children are so quick to believe what they read on social media, but parents you are going to have to step up and be the PARENT. Get in your child’s business! Maybe just maybe by being the parent, you will save your child.